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Relationships Do You Know What You Want?

Something happened yesterday which reminded me of how easy it is for us to get our priorities the wrong way round. I noticed an order made on my website for a golf mind training hypnosis download. Then I saw that this same person came back six hours later and ordered two more hypnosis downloads – one entitled “re-generate love in your relationship” and the other titled “getting over a broken relationship”.

Two thoughts immediately sprang to mind. The first was that this person put his golf before his relationship. (Now, I’m holding my hands up here to admit that this is an assumption of mine and based on very tenuous information, but it triggered in me the observation that many people do put their hobby first in their life and their relationship last…and still more put their work first and relationship last.) The second was that he was betting on both sides with his later order; his choice of hypnosis downloads indicated that he did not know which way to turn – get over his relationship or try again with his relationship.

It may seem to many that purchasing both downloads was sensible, that he could deal with his situation no matter the eventuality. To me though, I saw a red flag waving in my mind; this person has no clear intent, he has made no clear decision, and if his thoughts are going this way and then that, so too will his behavior. He will be acting first hot and then cold, for want of a better expression. And his partner will wonder what on earth is going on. BOTH parties end up confusedÂ…and frustrated, which does not bode well for the relationship. The expression “being in two minds” can be clearly seen.

It is easy for an outsider to proffer advice. The person in question needs to take a step back, and see things from every angle and then to make a choice. The good news is that he has chosen hypnosis. This is great; In fact, it is the best thing he could have done. Hypnosis is a state of relaxation, and so he will be able to change state, he will be able to step back from his emotions and then he will be able to think clearly. To be able to do this is massively important. (His hypnosis download choice indicated that he could not think clearly, he could not think straight.)

Now, what I’m hoping is that he will firstly choose to play “regenerate love in your relationship”. Why so? Because if you’re in two minds about a relationship, it’s worth a try. Why throw something away which could still work? Why not give it 150% and then you know, either way, that you have given it your best shot? If it works, that’s fantastic; you’re happy. If it doesn’t work then you know, beyond any shadow of a doubt, that this relationship was not for you. Either way, you win. If you didn’t give it this chance, you would always wonder “what if…?” and that is not a good feeling to have niggling away at the back of your mind. And, if it doesn’t work it is easy to move on, seeing as you now know it could never work. Win, win!

There is one proviso; if you are going to focus on regenerating love in your relationship, focus properly, and give it 150%. Your determination and your commitment WILL be reflected in the results. If you give it a “half-hearted” attempt, the result will be just that. You cannot make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear, as my mother would say. You create your own reality through your own beliefs, expectations and commitment.

Hypnosis is a great way in which you can get your conscious and subconscious minds working together, to gain clear focus and alignment within your mind. You can get your logical and your emotional minds working together also. If you wish something to work out for you it is essential to make a whole-hearted effort and hypnosis is what makes this possible. You can, with the help of hypnosis downloads, learn to focus your mind, fully and completely, upon what you want.

This leads me back to the very beginning; if you put your golf first and relationship second, don’t be surprised if your partner feels disgruntled or walks out on you! Life does give back what you put in…and with the help of hypnosis downloads you can learn to focus clearly and magnetize what you want to happen into your reality.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis downloads for relationship issues.

How to Protect Yourself From Negativity

There are negative influences to be found all around us in this world. Some people inexplicably wait for the next negative event seemingly with bated breath, whilst others, like me, do everything in their power to repel such influences.

I’m sure that you, like I, have come across people who seem to be surrounded by a black cloud of mood-dampening negativity, and the creepy feeling of that dark mist reaching its arms out to grab you makes you want to turn tail and flee! I sometimes have to stop myself from physically putting out my arms as a barrier against those dark and dreary vibes, or covering my ears so as to stop a negative droll from entering my hearing space. My body language must be screaming out, yelling at those vibes, telling them to get away from me; that I do not want to catch that contagious disease called negativity.

In my imagination, this really is what I am doing; I am holding up a stick and warding off that tenacious terrier dog, stopping it from nipping at my ankles, I’m covering my ears, turning my back, holding out a shield and generally putting on all of the mental armor I can find in my tool kit of mental skills which I carry in my back park wherever I may go. Sometimes I imagine that I am expanding, growing bigger and stronger and taller, whilst at the same time that black cloud of negativity is shrinking and fading and disappearing. And at other times I just imagine floating up into the air, with sunlight bathing me in warmth and comfort, and looking down upon that misty and murky fog from a great distance.

When I open that back-pack of mental skills, its great fun to see how they continually grow in number. I found the other day two new tools – a gun for paintballing and a laser gun, enabling me to “zap” negative influences and keep them well away from my comfort zone and prevent them from entering my personal space. A favorite of mine is a mirrored shield, which sends negative vibes straight back to whence they came. Another is a magic wand which can be used for many purposes, not just to turn annoying negative things into frogs. That magic wand can be used to send bright sparkles over to those who are brooding, black and moody, so as to brighten up their day as well.

Central of course to this theme of protecting yourself from negativity is to first ensure that your own habitual thoughts are positive and to have the confidence and self-belief to know that your own relaxed, happy and positive feelings and vibes will always prevail. It is from this solid core of inner confidence that your mental skills spring from. You can pad out your back-pack and enhance your mental skills through employment of your creative mind, which you can access and more fully utilize with the help of hypnosis.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis downloads for self-improvement, self-confidence and well-being.

You Can be Peaceful

In recent years there has been an increase worldwide in the number of people who are troubled by emotional problems. More and more people are lonely, depressed, worried, nervous, fearful, more impulsive, and aggressive and so on. In a community where we have so much, one would think that everyone should be relaxed, peaceful and satisfied. Every time you turn on the TV or open a newspaper, all that is seen and heard seems to be negative and frightening.

It is clear that these emotional issues impact not only upon the person experiencing them, but also on everybody around them and the associated problems tend to escalate until they get completely out of hand like a snowball gathering snow and speed as it rolls down a hill. The ease of communication in this day and age allows negativity, as well as positivity, to be transmitted and passed on at an alarming rate.

How can we tackle this problem of emotional negativity? What can be done to reverse this trend? We can learn emotional intelligence ourselves and teach it to our children as well.

The trend over the last few years has been to emphasize the importance of IQ, the importance of proving how intelligent we are by gaining degrees and such like. There has been a trend towards earning as much as possible at the expense of enjoying life and being happy. We earn more money so we can have a bigger house, or more cars, so that we can drive to work separately and no longer spend as much time together! We drive instead of walk and then go to the gym to try to lose weight! Both parents go to work to earn more money and have a so-called better standard of living, whilst the children are left with carers…and so on. This system works positively for some, but not for others. And if we don’t go along with the trends of society we can feel left out, and different, which creates another set of emotional issues.

Howard Gardener, psychologist at the Harvard School of Education, has made the observation that the single most important contribution education can make to a child’s development is to help her towards a field where her talents best suit her, where she will be satisfied and competent. And as a society, it is abundantly clear that we have completely lost sight of this.

The fact that emotional issues are a growing problem proves to us that it’s not something we are born with. Yes, our genes provide us with emotional set points which determine our temperament, but these set points are not rigid; rather, they are adaptable to the environment we are exposed to. We learn methods and ways of dealing with things as we grow up, we watch how our elders deal with things and copy them. The way in which the people around you contain their emotions will impact on the methods which you learn to use in similar situations.

Human beings and the human mind are naturally and amazingly adaptable. Originally, human beings only had the emotional regions of the brain; over time, the logical thinking, the rational, higher functions of the brain developed. Our emotions are generated instinctively; they are the feelings that appear by impulse. The development of higher brain functions allows the human mind to learn to control these more basic impulses, these instincts.

Thus the ability to control ones emotions is something which is learned, rather than something you are born with. You can learn self-control, self-restraint and empathy. You can learn how to be peaceful, satisfied and happy, and hypnosis downloads can be used to make this learning curve easy, quick and effective.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis downloads to assist you in being happy, healthy and successful.